As entrepreneurs, solopreneurs or business owners, we know that running a business is hard work. And running a business while you are raising a family, especially raising kids alone, is gut wrenching, dig down deep in your soul difficult. You struggle with spending your time with your kids or on your business. Do you take that skype call when your child wants your attention? Do you go out of town for a conference or meeting when you know it will mean a week away from your kids? That money that is going to airfare, training, software or a computer – should it go into their college fund instead, or maybe pay for another lesson or tutoring.
It is not easy being a parent, married or single, or running a business. It takes a special kind of heart that needs to be nurtured by other like-minded people. If you don’t have those in your circle, go find them. Whether in meetups for business networking, training, or Facebook groups. Find them. Having someone else who “gets it” when you are straining to birth this dream inside you. Knowing there are people who are encouraging you makes all the difference between realizing that dream and staying at or going back to a j.o.b.
There is a fire inside of you to build that dream and past all the doubts, the setbacks, the detours, and the “if only”, you can find the embers to fan the flames. It may take longer for you than it does for others. I found myself wallowing in self-pity to know that I had been working for two years to find the success that other people in very similar work found in just a few months. When you realize that your success is like a snowflake – uniquely beautiful – it’s easier to dig deep to find the place to continue to work at it and see every step, whether forwards or backwards, as necessary in the journey to building something that you and your family can be proud of.
Having your own business or working for yourself as a freelancer instills a drive into your children that they can’t learn anywhere else. They realize that hard work and perseverance can pay off.
How can you overcome your doubts and teach this lesson to your kids? What lessons do they need to learn? These are a few of my tried and true shake off the nay saying demon tricks:
Finally, allow yourself to just be. When you feel your body telling you it has reached the breaking point, listen. Take a nap, take a walk, take a break – whatever you need. Just be sure to put a timer on it. That break has to have a beginning and an end.
Then jump back in with renewed vigor.
You can do this thing you’ve found to dream about. If you need help being inspired or motivated, just leave a comment below. I will help you fan the flames or reignite the ember.